How do you deal with compassion fatigue?

Recently I presented The Wellness Solution:Help Yourself Help The World to a group of cardiovascular pharmacists at the 20th Annual Contemporary Therapeutic Issues in Cardiovascular Disease Conference.

We tapped into the “wisdom in the room” to have an amazing collaborative discussion on how we can deal with compassion fatigue. compassion fatigue

To recap, compassion fatigue can affect virtually everyone in the caring professions. It’s only natural that when we use our “muscles” of compassion and empathy every day that they can get worn out. The implications of having compassion fatigue on a regular basis aren’t great. It can lead to burnout and even a decline in the effectiveness of our service. So how do we counteract this? How do we help ourselves stay engaged in our work and help the people we serve in a way that is actually sustainable? In short, how can we keep caring?

We threw this open to the group and here are a few of the answers that we came up with.

1: Go for a quick walk. Sometimes when we are a bit overwhelmed by our practice, getting even a few minutes of fresh air and physical activity can act as a reset for us in the middle of our day.

2: Have a “Burnout Buddy”.  Find a colleague in a similar situation to talk to on a regular basis. Set a time with them to support each other in a non-judgmental way. Because you are probably facing similar circumstances, you and your partner will be able to relate and realize that you are not the only ones facing this issue. As well, you get to drink coffee, which is always a bonus.

3: Pretend your client is a member of your family. I thought this one was terrific. Sometimes if we are dealing with someone who is particularly challenging and we lose our patience (pun intended), it can be a great idea to pretend that the person in front of us is actually a family member. If we think of our family member being a bit confused or needing a bit more help it can really help us find more compassion for the interaction. Heck, if your Mom or Uncle needed a bit of extra help, you’d give it to them in a heartbeat wouldn’t you? Of course you would. However, make sure you don’t slip up and refer to them as “Mom” or “Uncle Reggie” as that might get a little weird.

4: Get a Massage! Ok, this wasn’t one of the suggestions for dealing with compassion fatigue but I am all for getting a good dose of RMT on a regular basis. Published evidence shows that getting a massage can make an immediate and positive impact on our health and level of happiness. I’m guessing you have some unused health benefits just sitting there gathering dust. Time to make use of them and schedule a massage!

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5: Meditate, centre yourself or do some deep breathing.

6: Recognize that you’re not seeing your patient at their best.

7: Think “I could find myself in the same situation as a patient”.

One of the great things about all of these strategies is that they are accessible to you right now. Virtually any one of us can go for a brisk walk at lunch and clear our head, or have a chat with a colleague about how this job is pretty tough sometimes. Heck, you can even go completely crazy and go for a massage! Once again, it was an absolute pleasure to meet all of you and to hear your great stories during “You Can Own The Room: Lose the Fear and Present like a Pro.”

All the best!

Rob

Thrilled to be Presenting at Pharmacy U!

I will be presenting Connecting With Patients:The Final Frontier at Pharmacy U on November 27th in Vancouver. The entire landscape of pharmacy is changing at a very rapid pace. Up until now, the potential for meaningful connection between pharmacists and patients has been overlooked. We’ll explore how enriching this relationship offers significant advantages to pharmacists and brings better care to patients. Can’t wait!

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This session has been given a rating of 0.5 CEU (Continuing Education Unit)

Writing an Article for U of T Med Magazine, who me?

You ever get one of those emails that comes out of nowhere and feels great? Well, I was just asked to write an article for UofT Med Magazine. This alumni magazine is put out to support graduates of the U of T Medicine program has been doing great stuff on mental health for physicians and how medical professionals need to learn to support themselves and their colleagues in this wildly challenging field. I’ve been asked to do a piece on comedy in medicine. I’ve almost got a first draft cooking; and a second draft that’s about to go in the oven.

We’ll see how this cake turns out.

 

Hello Canadian Cardiovascular Pharmacists!

Is that a prescription in your pocket or are you just happy to see me?

I am very excited to be presenting The Wellness Solution: Help Yourself Help The World for the The Canadian Cardiovascular Pharmacists Network. 

The 20th Annual Contemporary Therapeutic Issues in Cardiovascular Disease will be attended by pharmacists from across the country. I will also be presenting the workshop You Can Own The Room: Lose Your Fear and Present Like a Pro.

Can’t wait!

Are you addicted to Trump? 3 Signs you might be, and what to do about it.

While drinking my  cup of coffee in the morning and scanning the headlines for the latest outrage, I had an uncomfortable thought. Was I addicted to Trump? The answer is “Yes”. You might be as well. Here are the warning signs.

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1: You read about him everyday. Obsessively. You might click on the news to see what crazy thing he has done or tweeted in the last ten minutes.

2: You start a lot of conversations with “Do you believe the crazy sh*t Trump just did?”

3: You wake up in the middle of the night after a nightmare where Trump actually became President of The United States. Then you realize he did and you cry/drink a lot.

We are convinced that the world needs us to do this and that we are helping the situation by being in a constant state of worry. The world doesn’t need us to do this. In fact, its very counterproductive.

“But Rob,” I hear you yelling, “Its my responsibility to be informed! I must be a world citizen who knows what’s going on and then I can participate in a meaningful way.”

That’s what I thought until I noticed something. I was checking google news virtually every hour and ignoring my own life. Trump is a master at creating news and attracting attention. He’s like a snotty, spoiled rich kid who goes to a friends birthday party and doesn’t care if he wrecks the whole thing as long as he is the one everybody is looking at. And I have to admit, it is incredibly entertaining-too entertaining.

He makes us ask questions like “Is he actually serious about the travel ban? Does he really think he was bugged, or is it just some master plan to draw attention away from his relationship with Russia? Is he really a bit unhinged or is he a strange dark genius?

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Imagine this guy with hurt feelings and a bunch of caffeine.

I have a question for you though: What has happened to your own story during this time? Are you pursuing  your own hopes and dreams? Have they been advanced or helped by your attention to this political confusion? Unless you have a stake in Breitbart News (and I truly hope you don’t) then probably the answer is a resounding “No!” .

You may have found ( I certainly have) that “Trumping” has moved past being a fascinating distraction to being a drain on your creativity and productivity. Its hard to stay focused on our own story and contributions to the world when a man with control over the most mechanized military in history is  flailing around like an angry viking hopped up on  vodka and Redbull.

This level of crazy is captivating and terrifying to watch. It is nothing short of addictive.

However there  is very little we can do to change it. Heck, I’m sitting here safely in Canada and wondering what I can do to make it better and the answer is “Nothing”. I can make my voice heard and that’s it. I’m not saying we should give up on the world, say screw it and go have a nice dinner with wine (actually that sounds perfect) but maybe our precious attention is better spent elsewhere.

Want to make the world a better place? Here’s a few ideas off the top of my head.

You could…

1: Hang out with friends and make them laugh.  kiva

2: Make a meal for someone you care about.

3: Lend money to brave 3rd world entrepreneurs on Kiva.

4: Take a moment and do ANYTHING positive except feed the crazy train that is the Trump presidency.

Someone much wiser than me said “Be the Change you wish to see in the world” (It was Gandhi) . Well, I think right now the world needs many of us to step up and really demonstrate who we are by not just saying “Oh this is terrible” but by creating more of what we want by showing generosity, kindness, integrity and dare I say it? A bit of LOVE.

Rock on Everybody.

Hawke out.

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Canadian Mental Health Association Kenora Branch

I am thrilled to be presenting The Wellness Solution: Help Yourself help The World to The Canadian Mental Health Association Kenora Branch. It will be terrific to go to this marvelous part of the country and meet professionals in health care who are doing work supporting the community. Kenora has always been a bit of a mythical place for me and I am excited to go. Heck, to be honest my fishing rod is already packed in hopes of meeting Huskie the Muskie.

Looking forward to it CMHA Kenora Branch!

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My Adventures in Madonna’s Bedroom

I was sleeping in Madonna’s room. For real. No Kidding. How was it that I, A Led Zeppelin fanatic was sleeping on a bed that Madonna had slept in? Good question.

Recently, my wife and I had a trip to Spain. We are pretty much in love with the place. We love its people, the depth of its history, the architecture, the food, the wine, the ridiculous mountain roads and the food. (I may have mentioned food twice but really it is that good.) One of our favourite places in the whole country is a small town in the south called Ronda. Hemingway was crazy about Ronda as well. In fact he called it the most romantic town in all of Spain (and I would agree). Its built on mountains that drop off on sheer cliffs to the valley below. Sound dramatic? Well, it is. Here have a look at this pic…ronda-spain

See what I mean? Beautiful right? Well all off this beauty did now go unnoticed when Madonna (or somebody who worked for her) was picking locations for the video for Take A Bow.

Now, I am not a huge Madonna fan. I am a fan of Jimmy Page of Zeppelin. I’m not even sure that its legal to be a fan of both of these artists at the same time, However my wife LOVES Madonna and she arranged for us to stay in the room that Madonna stayed in when she was in Ronda called, funny enough The Madonna Room.

It was awesome. There was a small terrace, fancy wooden windows, a view of the countryside, lots of wood,  and a surprising amount of S&M gear (just kidding). It was really cool and even for a non fan like myself, I couldn’t help but be a bit star struck by the fact that we were staying in the room where someone that famous had been. It was a bit weird. It was also remarkably human. You see there was all this regular stuff in the room as well, like a bed, with a mattress and dare I say it? A toilet. with a chain that you pull. madonna-room

You see after a few hours of being impressed with the fame of the person who had stayed there, it struck me that it was a room (albeit a REALLY nice one) that had all the human stuff in it that all of us need. Whoever had stayed in the room be they famous or not, had all the same basic human needs that we all have. We all need to sleep, eat, wake up, go to the bathroom and get the guck out of our eyes in the morning, regardless of who we are.

No matter how much we try to fool ourselves we are all walking around looking for the same things in different ways, we’re looking for warmth, connection, fun, security, a way to contribute, appreciation and a good deal on a archery equipment (ok maybe not that). The details and circumstances of our lives might be radically different, but our nature as humans, I think is remarkably the same. So it is with our quest for wellness. No matter our different the circumstances and details of our lives, we are all trying to get through this day and the next with a bit of dignity and even love.

 

If you want to stay in Madonna’s room. you can! Its in one of the best and funkiest places I’ve ever stayed.

The Hotel Enfrente in Ronda Spain. Its a funky, bohemian boutique hotel in one of the best places in Spain. I completely recommend it.

Wherever you are and whatever you’re doing, have a good one. And now…Here’s Madonna…

 

Long Live Gilda’s!

A Huge Thank You to Lianne Mauladin Anna Gustafson and The Coincidence Men for a tremendous show last night at Glida’s Club Toronto. It was one of the magical nights when everyone had a blast. Our gifted comedians were in amazing form. The members of Gilda’s were a great audience. That my friends is the power of laughter and imrov in action.

Good Feels all around. Many thanks, we’ll do it again. Long Live Gilda’s!

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Need a Facilitator? Well, you came to the right place…

Sometimes in a meeting or conference you need a trained Facilitator to help your team get the most out of their time together. I am thrilled to announce that I have just been certified as a trained Facilitator through Facilitation First .

Facilitation First is the premier trainer of meeting skills in Canada.

 

The Coincidence Men are up for Nomination for A Canadian Comedy Award

My Improv troupe “The Coincidence Men” is eligible to be nominated for a Canadian Comedy Award. Just click on the pic to give us a nod! (We’re under “T” you know for THE Coincidence Men)

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